Nature of Identity

Nature of Identity

Let us assume for a moment that every person has two natures, two versions of themselves that creates his/her individual self. The question that we really should ask is: What version (of that person) that person do show us in that specific moment? "And, which of the two versions is more dominant? "

First of all, I think that we have to start from distinguishing these versions to be able to name them. ABDL for some is a lifestyle and an inseparable component of their own identity, but ABDL is only a collection of behaviours and trends, both sexual and non-sexual, so can we call it human nature? Not yet, mainly because each of us is different and each of us treats this aspect differently. We can put a collection in one so called bag, but in order to become our nature we need a very important component which is our personal motif.

For many it is just a steppingstone, a nostalgic return to childhood to remind us of a blissful life deprived of worries or problems of adult life, for others it is a psychological therapy related to the lack of acceptance by the environment. For yet others it is a choice that each of us makes every day with a question "But why am I getting up today? "And," Does it make any sense? ". Of course, as in every community there are exceptions and the motif may be a traumatic experience from the past that the victim of such an incident subconsciously does not allow as true for mental survival of oneself. Such cases are fortunately very rare and for those people ABDL after some time turns the practise into a previously mentioned psychological therapy. Answering the second question, which of the two versions is more dominant? "We have to delve into the human psychology and understand what those identity versions are. In simple words, our identity is a set of behaviours and trends unique to a given individual, so having two such sets, we must assume that they may have common features but they are different and thus create a different type of behaviour. Domination has been used for centuries among people, animals and every living being, which is why we can say that this is a natural phenomenon, but as we are humans, we will focus on human psychological domination. An example of such domination can be manipulation or even raised tone of voice, it depends on the person, however, let us deal with the dominance of data and specific characteristics of our group, ABDL. What are the qualities of each of us, of ABDL group? Of course, sexual and psychological arousal in contact with articles that we associate with our personal childhood, of course the desire to be treated as a small child, of course, in many cases, pure desire to sexual satisfaction and of course for reasons which are completely unknown to us which we call the impulses of the subconscious. Our adult version is the result of our personal development and therefore it is complete but still evolving, changing us we change as well we have only one possible set of memories and when we become children again we create new memories, learn new things from new slightly different perspective that we mostly lack in our adult life, we get a different perspective for problems with which we struggle every day. About which of our versions of us is the dominant one we decide, in fact at every moment of our lives, however, we have in mind such moments mainly the first thoughts that flow through our heads.

Treating ABDL as a steppingstone, we can easily give ABDL up, for most of the times, because it gives us moments of pleasure, satisfaction but it is not necessary for us to depend on. The problem with the dominance of this version begins when ABDL is already part of our life, the routine of the day and we get used to being a child more than being an adult. Why is this a problem? Here, it will not be a surprise if I say that because we are not children anymore and every day we are older, not younger. Of course, it is a duty to mention here also that re-being a child in the mind is extremely tempting. People who have problems in human contacts will want to feel like a child again to overcome their weakness, people who are leaders will want to feel children again to free themselves from duties and responsibility for their words and deeds. In every situation in which we are in a mental state of a child, we do it to help ourselves to distance ourselves or simply restore the mental balance, but what if the child's version becomes the dominant one. Danger lies in depersonalization, in simple words, a sense of self-loss, depression associated with the lack of self-acceptance and disruption of our individual system of values, which consequences can be destructive to our adult life (private, professional, family, sexual).

So how do you deal with it, how to keep balance?

My personal advice is the following those steps: - Making a list of your pros and cons - Thanks to which we can work on the disadvantages and the advantages will keep us in adulthood. - Making a list of priorities and goals - Thanks to that we will know that we have plans and some assumptions that we want to make. - Trying new things - Thanks to that we will feel the need for both versions of our life as the child version will provide us with ideas and the adult version will make these ideas a reality. - Initiation of the person we are the closest to our worlds - Thanks to that we will have the opinion of another person that will help us keep balance. - Showing our feelings - Suppressing lust and emotions in ourselves can have a much worse effect than saying and showing them to the world. - * If we have the opportunity and at the same time excess of thoughts is to write them in the form of short stories, with the dynamic social personality will help to publish their work and interact with other users of the community in order to exchange views and information.

I am running a blog, creating a magazine, and active participation in the forum, keeping this balance and developing my graphic, creative and literary skills. This article is based on a subjective feeling and subjective assumptions; however, it is also written with the thought of helping to understand the subject of ABDL.